Relationship with Money

Money is energy and we are energy. Money interact with us in an energy level, if we on the same vibrational level with the money we need, the money will automatically be attracted to us.

Money will find its way to us, so we should never worry about ‘how’ it will come. When we don’t have a good relationship with money, we struggle with not worrying about the “how”. For example, if you have a good relationship with your relatives and you have a party, you invite them, you never worry about them not showing up, but if there is tension you will definitely worry about them attending the parting.
If we have a good relationship with money, money will make its way to us by means of great ideas and amazing opportunities. The important part of this relationship is our receiving. We have to be open to receive. We have to know we have the right to receive. We are good enough to receive. Mostly this is where the problem lies, we sometimes think we need to do certain things to qualify or to be something else, for example with think we do not have enough education or we have too much education, the color of our skin might be too dark or too light. We do not have enough skills, or we do not know enough about something.

When we in a relationship with another person but we are not open to receive, maybe love from them, they can’t really force us, deal breaker right there. We have to believe we are worthy of having money. How worthy we are of money we were taught, so we need to unlearn, and relearn that we are worthy for the simple reason that we are here breathing, as much as we do not have any problems breathing, we don’t count how much air we deserve, we need to learn the same about money, its the same thing.
How I started teaching about money was because lot of people I know wanted me to share with them about my business success, they wanted to know how I made it. Mostly when I shared that it wasn’t really about the business it was about the relationship I had developed with Money, they couldn’t understand. If they did understand, it just didn’t work for them because, it’s a process that needs to be practiced, it not a one-day job.

Now I coach my clients to have and keep money, I have workshops where I teach this called Money Breakfast, and most of all I have a Facebook group, where we have daily exercises, where we practice this better relationship with money, that is where all the existing things happen. #MoneyBreakfast
How would you know your relationship with money needs fixing?
You will know with the feeling you have when you think about money,

  • If you feel you don’t have enough money
  • If you feel you don’t want to think about money
  • If you feel pain that you don’t know how to get the money you want
  • If you feel the money you want is just way too much, you would rather just have what you can

A better, happier relationship with money changed my life. I do what I love, and I get paid by doing what I love, a dream come true. I know and believe we can all have this, if we will fix and nature the relationships we have with money.
I’m Busi Selesho CEO of Isipho Sempilo and an International accredited life coach, coaching wellness-living the best life in bliss. I teach my clients how to have a better relationship with money.


Be careful what you wish for

images (13)Second Month of the year. It is still a new year; it is a great time to make a wish or wishes. It’s a great time to make goals and plan for the new season before it’s over.

Its also a great time to let go of that which no longer serves us, making space for the new.

Have you ever made a wish?

Was it a wish or a goal?

If it was a wish, how many wishes do you think you have made in the current life time, 30-35, as the number of the years you have lived, Maybe 350-1000 because you just serious about life.

Dou you still remember the wishes you have made?

What is a wish? What is the difference between a wish and a goal?

Different Dictionaries have different descriptions for this one, I wonder why, some have descriptions I don’t agree with or maybe we not referring to the same thing.

The Synonyms they have are; a desire, longing, hope, yearning, urge, craving, hunger. They almost got it right but it is not what I’m referring to.

It is just not a true definition of a wish.

As kids we have heard of beautiful stories, of making a wish and wishes that came true. Isn’t just great being a kid. Because most of us at that stage we knew less of the bad stuff, life had a total different view.

We then learn about stuff like Gender, colour, class, good, bad, evil, and all that jazz and the suffering started, the one that exist when we have money or not, the one that exist when we succeed or not, and someone decided to give the suffering another name. We busy curing cancer while we have TB. We have a wrong turn situation.

We have heard of stories for example Aladdin and the genie in the bottle, Cinderella.

If you can notice this stories have all somethings in common, ASKING, I think that is the most important commonality in them,

asking the impossible,

asking for the benefit of the greater good

and of course my favourite part the magic, they all have magic.

The people who are asking believe in magic. That is the main rule “believe in magic” don’t ask how.

The is also something in common with the people who make the wishes,

they all don’t not have stories about why they asking or about why they shouldn’t ask. They don’t ask for a qualifying criterion for asking.

They don’t say should I be tall or short, should I have degree or not.

They know that, just by them existing, they qualify, that is good enough, they understand they don’t have to do anything or be anything more or less of who they are, they are enough, they are good enough, they can ask.

they actually understand that there are no criteria, everyone can jump in anytime as they wish.

Another common factor is that in all the stories

the asking party can never ever say, they had something to do with the wish coming true. They get that there is no way they could have done that all by themselves.

They get their position, believe, ask, and receive.

When they receive they also don’t say “oh no that is too much for me”, or “no but I don’t deserve that”, “I can’t have that, people like me don’t get such things”. In summary they receive without drama.

Believing is too easy that its actually complicates the whole thing to the highest degree of difficulty because believing is a choice that we make for ourselves but also others can make it for us easy. So when we believe something we have to be extra careful of who is doing the believing is it us or someone else. And ask ourselves that did we do our due diligence of checking the facts for ourselves before we believe.

For example

we believe coca cola is a soft drink and not a cleaning detergent, while actually it cleans better than what it does in the stomach. What happened, how did we get to believe that, someone every nice out there is doing the believe for us, for free as long as we go along and of course buy the product. it’s good for us isn’t it, we believe that also.

Another easy example If you believe that there is a black person and a white person, did you ever give yourself time to study about PIGMENTATION, maybe 1 hour. That is just basic but It might just end a lot of suffering for you. It might interest you, you can find out more, in the process letting go of some suffering. Check the facts before you believe.

I believe in magic, I believe that the universe is asking me, all of us to make a wish, an upgrade of a goal.

You can have your goals no one is going to take that away from you.

Goals keep us all sane.

Their good for our mental health.

Goals are good because we can perform and measure ourselves, we can get them done all by ourselves, so we can feel good, important and on top of the world, we can be achievers. That is great, if that doesn’t work the are other ways of getting that same feeling.

A wish is not a goal because

1, it has to be something that serves the greater good, not a me and my house case, keeping up with Jones, that’s achievable with goals

2, something you truly desire, it will help a lot if you have the question; “what is my purpose”, your wish is your purpose,

3, a wish cannot be SMART- specific, measurable, Achievable, Realistic, with Time. We do that for goals

A wish needs to be amazing, it needs to be magical. Simply it means that it should not be based on your abilities at all, for example what was your turnover last year, so how much percentages based on that can you grow this year, not a wish

Magic is a free gift from the universe that says “your wish is my command.”

I’m asking that we think of making a wish in this new year, knowing that it has nothing to do with us, no judgement at all of what we have achieved in the past, what we capable of, who we are, who do we know. It all about asking beyond us.

Asking knowing, we are also special, we can ask without a scan of who we are.

Can we do that?

Be careful what you wish for because you might just get it, guess what if you follow the rules you will get it.

Remember it’s got nothing to do with who you are. You are good enough. You are accepted.


Your wish is my command.